You know what they say, “the kitchen is the heart of the home.”
That’s certainly true at our house.
The kitchen is where we gather to cook, talk, and enjoy a delicious meal together at the end of the day.
We also have one important “tool” in our kitchen that gives it true “heart.”
But this tool has nothing to do with cooking and everything to do with communication.
It’s a small chalkboard hung on the wall next to the stove.
We call it the Family Message Center.
It’s where we leave all sorts of messages for each other.
For example, if I’m going to leave the house before my husband gets home from work in the evening, and I want to let him know where I am, instead of reaching for the phone and leaving him a voicemail message, I reach for the chalk and scribble down a message on the chalkboard.
Something like: Gone to my writer’s meeting. See you around 8:00!
XXXOOO
We also use the chalkboard to wish each other a happy birthday, wish everyone a Merry Christmas ( we count down the days and use it as our own advent calendar), share important quotes we’ve read that we think are worth sharing, and even post a word for the day and a definition.
But the messages I most enjoy seeing on our chalkboard are the unexpected ones.
As when our grown son Tyler drops by for a meal, and later I look at the chalkboard and see that he’s written,
Great dinner, Mom! Enjoyed the chess game, Dad. Thanks!
Or, our son Nick will sketch a cartoon character, along with a silly joke.
My husband likes to write things out in “code” so we have to figure out what he’s trying to tell us.
Not that his code is anything the average person can’t decipher instantly.
Silly, but endearing messages like - URthe1Iwant2C2nite.
I use the board to post affirmations - although my sons have been known to alter these statements and turn them into silly jokes.
But the point is, you can improve family communication with a simple chalkboard.
When you get in the habit of leaving messages - whether your message is a word for the day, a thank you, a happy birthday wish, or even an affirmation - everyone in the family suddenly has something to “say” and will usually write it down.
And you’ll probably find your family talking about the messages during dinner some evenings, too.
So create better family communication.
Get a chalkboard.
And use it!